Mar 22, 2013 - Problems    1 Comment

Busy and Pregnant

Busy and Pregnant

This week was a mess. It wasn’t a good week to be pregnant. I had my blood results on Monday and they looked ok, I will ask my doctor on Monday to be sure. But from Tuesday on we had a busy, hectic week. I had to put my file in order for the driving test. Wednesday I had to run from one place to another to pay some taxes for the file, to register our car and for other local taxes. Then I took my driver license file to make an appointment for the practical driving exam. Which I will have to take on April 22nd and I had time from that moment on to take the written examination, if not I could not take the practical exam then.

Thursday we had an appointment with the car for some tests and it was on the outskirts of town. My husband was very stressed of driving in the rain as it was very early in the morning, lots of traffic, and only the second time he got to start up the car and drive it. He is a beginner too so I had to come along for moral support. The way in was ok but when we came back there was no parking space for us anymore, none that he could get in without so much stress, anyway. So we had to look somewhere else and we found a place 10 minutes away of walking to our home.

Then we had some paperwork to do for the car again. But as we didn’t had all the information we needed from the car test station we just came back from, had to go there again. Fortunately we didn’t needed the car anymore so we took a taxi and came back with all the paperwork. We filled out a form that a nice man in an office gave us, took that form to the other end of the building for a lady in another office to register the files and put a stamp with a date on, and moved to the middle of the building at a long line to just leave that papers there so we could come back for them the other day.

So today we had to get up early again so that I could take the written exam which I had prepared myself for a long time now. I was so nervous I had a little panic attack. Not because I wasn’t prepared but because I had some stomach aches, from the emotions and I had to go to the bathroom. Baby was kicking every time I sat down and wasn’t helping with my problem. Finally when my number was called and I had to wait in another waiting area to enter the examination room, I had the guts to ask the nice lady to please let me to the toilet as I am pregnant and in very much need of one.

They gave me a key and told me they don’t know what’s inside of that toilet as they have to share it with other people. I couldn’t care less. I just needed a hole and a private space so no one could see me, but it was WAY worse than I expected as I saw my share of dirty, filthy bathrooms, but this was like the worse thing ever. I didn’t, however, had any problem to make my other problem disappear, but I will definitely remember that bathroom. Just imagine the flushing device broken and no cleaning lady for months, and some people with very bad stomach problems. I didn’t touched a thing, just the handle of the front door and the key, I can’t even remember if there was a sink or not, but the trash can was full and right in my face when I bent down to do my business, and I had to try really hard not to look into it.

I completed my exam without other incidents, with a score of 24 from 26 questions, and I only had to do 22 right to pass and we went to take the cars paperwork again. We found out the pollution tax is huge, WAY more than we expected, and we had to pay some other taxes for the registration file to be complete. Taxes that in order to be payed we had to take a taxi to another part of the town. When all was complete, after an hour or two, cuz we had to come back for other paperwork AGAIN, we got rid of the file and completed our task for the registration.

We will have the car numbers on Wednesday, just in time for when we come back from my home town as this weekend we will travel there because my anatomy scan appointment is on Monday. We hope we can get some relaxation, at least no more walking from one place to another with paperwork or files or taxes, I just had enough.

I am prepared for a redo week like this when we finish the buy of our country house. We will have to change the names on all the utilities contracts, but it will be in a smaller village so maybe we will not run as much. Hoping, of course, they don’t send us to our larger town to fill the paperwork.

Mar 17, 2013 - Feelings, Health    No Comments

Twenty Weeks Pregnant

Twenty Weeks Pregnant

My belly bump at twenty weeks is, as you can see, getting bigger and bigger. My husbands nick name for me is “little barrel”, but I don’t mind. I don’t think I got bigger as in fat, just bigger baby bump.

I love my active baby. It’s moving all the time and it makes me smile. He makes lumps in my belly, I don’t know with what part of his body, but he’s cute. He’s all over the place but he stays more in the lower right part of my belly. I keep thinking he should go up cuz I’m scared of making him too tight with the pants waistband.

Tomorrow I get my blood tests results and I hope everything is fine. Saturday we are going to the city, my mother can’t wait to see me, and the next Monday we have the baby ultrasound at 21 weeks and a gender scan. Can’t wait for that!!!

Symptoms: besides my usual gas, back pain, nose congestion, fatigue, headache, frequent trips to the bathroom and swollen gums, this week I got some new ones, acid reflux, heartburn and leg cramps.

New measurements:

Baby weight: 255 grams
Baby crown to rump: 15-16 cm

Weight before: 59.3 kg
Weight nineteenth week: 63,5 kg

Bust measurements before: 87 cm
Bust nineteenth week: 94 cm

Waist before: 67 cm
Waist nineteenth week: 80 cm

Hips before: 92 cm
Hips nineteenth week: 93 cm

Butt before: 95 cm
Butt nineteenth week: 100 cm

Bump before: 77 cm
Bump nineteenth week: 92 cm

Mar 11, 2013 - Feelings    No Comments

Funny Gross Story

Train Seats

The previous weekend I told you I took my husband to another city, to look for maternity jeans and some alone time. We got both and plenty of food after this well deserved brake, but we also got something else.

The train we got back came from the capital so it looked pretty full. We found our seats right in front of some older ladies and quickly sit down so that others would have the space to get to theirs. We passed an old man who was helped by someone and looked ill and fragile and when we sat down and smelled some urine in the air we assumed it was him.

It wasn’t long till I realized my pants were getting wet and when I touched my behind with my hand I discovered it was wet. The instinct pushed me to get my hand to my nose and check what the liquid was. Imagine my surprise when it smelled like pee.

I’ve gone hysteric, my husband too, he kept saying lets go, lets move, and I didn’t know where cuz I thought it was full. I ruined a magazine we bought to read thinking I will sit on it for the rest of the trip. But there were enough seats and we went there with our luggage so that I could find a spare jeans to change.

I found my hand sanitizer and rubbed it on my hands a couple of times. I went to the small stinky bathroom to change and unfortunately I had to take my panties off too but I had nothing to replace them with. Again rubbed the soap sanitizer on my behind and hands, had some difficulties putting pants on because of the train movement and kept bumping on the walls. Put the damaged underwear and jeans in a secured bag so that the smell will not get out.

I was so scared at first. I imagined some drunk guy had stayed in my place before me and he peed on himself and what if I get some urinary infection because my underwear got wet too. I was relived to find out, when my husband went to ask the ladies in front of us if they knew who stayed there before, and they said it was a mother with a little kid who peed on himself. Surely i could blame the mother for not putting a diaper on her baby, but incidents do happen, and kids are not that full of urinary infections as adults are, so I wasn’t scared anymore.

But boy I was pissed off! The two “nice” ladies standing in front of us knew what happen and they still didn’t warned me about the wet seat, my belly was full and pretty sure it spelled pregnant. They stayed quiet, ignorant and probably laughing so hard that I sat on a peed seat.

So we moved and forgot all about it, left the magazine on the seat, thinking the ladies will do the right thing the next time, but when we came for our stuff we found a boy in my husbands seat, probably without a ticket and he had all his stuff on my wet seat, jacket, food, bottle of juice, and he was reading THE magazine we left on the seat. We warned him about the wet seat and he sadly threw away his biscuits and moved all of his stuff away. The ladies were still in the train, didn’t get off earlier or something, they simply didn’t have the common sense to be polite and warn others.

I hate ignorant people!

Mar 10, 2013 - Feelings    No Comments

Nineteen Weeks Pregnant

Nineteen Weeks Pregnant

This week ended in a pleasant note, with us going to a city near by called Craiova. I found two pairs of maternity jeans cuz the regular started to hurt me and a little bit of relaxation away from problems and nagging.

I had no trouble finding something to eat and I was very happy with everything, cuz I didn’t had to set the table, make the food and clean the dishes anymore. And I ate SO MUCH, I couldn’t believe myself. Good thing I’m home now and I don’t have a menu anymore, cuz I gained 2,3 kg from last week (1,6kg since we left home).

I don’t know if the baby bump is from the weekend that I spent eating or is what an actual nineteenth week baby bump should look like. I just feel my belly full but the extra food didn’t set yet on the body, luckily is just in the belly and will stay there. The walking around in the city was helpful, tiring but useful after all the food I had. My feet hurt, and after a hour or so I begun to walk like a duck, but I feel more energized and positive.

I’m so happy the cold weather passed and I will start to show my belly to the sun, and feel more comfortable without the 2-3 layers of clothing on my belly to keep warm.

New measurements:
Weight before: 59.3 kg
Weight nineteenth week: 63,9 kg

Bust measurements before: 87 cm
Bust nineteenth week: 94 cm

Waist before: 67 cm
Waist nineteenth week: 81 cm

Hips before: 92 cm
Hips nineteenth week: 93 cm

Butt before: 95 cm
Butt nineteenth week: 99 cm

Bump before: 77 cm
Bump nineteenth week: 92 cm

Mar 6, 2013 - Feelings    No Comments

Pregnancy View

Pregnancy View

This is what I see from my side. I have to admit this is a full belly after dinner and night snacks, but I like seeing it like this. It feels pregnant cuz I’m skinny, but it feels more than 18 weeks so it’s pretty to look at from upstairs. I know I gained some pounds that surrounds my pregnant belly, but the fact that I don’t see them from my pregnancy view it makes me happy, oblivious, but happy nevertheless.

My husband tells me I look like a Somali kid, but as long as I’m not starving and I’m eating even when I’m already full, it’s ok.

Yesterday I ate a pork schnitzel, made like a shaorma, with french fries, coleslaw, ketch-up and mayo and a thin pita (I apologize to the craving pregnant girls out there), I loved it so much cuz it didn’t taste like meat at all. Not even when I fried it. And yesterday my husband made some chilli con carne for today’s lunch, I tasted a bit and I couldn’t feel anything wrong with the beef, so I’m hopeful that with the rice I will make today it will go smoothly. I’m kinda scared of the red beans in it, hope my husband will prove to be a strong man and not leave me after tomorrow.

I find it harder and harder to dress myself, more so to put socks and shoes on, I can’t wait for the summer to come when all will be so easy. Baby moves every day for the last week and especially when I stay with my legs crossed, and when he kicks me it reminds me no not stay like that so that I will not squeeze him. I don’t know if it counts but I try not to even if I feel him often with my legs crossed. Even my husband could feel the baby kicking yesterday and the feeling made him giggling.

I can’t wait for the weekend to come so that we will get some time for us, without my mother in law, and can’t wait for the March 25th to come so that we will find out the gender for sure and how is our little healthy baby doing.

Mar 3, 2013 - Feelings    No Comments

Eighteen Weeks Pregnant

Eighteen Weeks Pregnant

The stress level in the house was WAY lower this week, but the gas level went through the roof. Yes, is not nice to talk about this, but as I am an open and uncensored person, I don’t mind. This is how pregnancy works. I avoided being sick as a dog, as many of other pregnant girls in the first trimester, but I can not avoid gas and frequent peeing this trimester.

The weight gain scared me this week as I reached even a 62,7 kg in the middle of the week. I didn’t want to make my body fat without reason, I wanted to gain just the things that baby needed, so when I saw I gained almost 2 kg in one week, I got scared. Fortunately I’m on the whattoexpect forums, for moms who give birth in August and I read everything that I can from work and some subjects there are of weight gain. The first time moms don’t know the answer to many questions and problems we encounter but there are the experienced moms who can answer our frights. So they helped me realize that most of my fattening was water retention, which is not that bad, and I immediately saw they were right.

For relaxation me and my husband will take a weekend off, away from the city. We will go visit a city near by, not that much different from ours but it will be a hotel, and I will not worry about house stuff, and we will eat at the restaurant and take some walks and discover a new city.

Other symptoms:
beside gas and pee, is headache, back ache, still a meat aversion, and what makes my heart melt in an instant is my baby movements.

New measurements:

Weight before: 59.3 kg
Weight eighteenth week: 61,6 kg

Bust measurements before: 87 cm
Bust eighteenth week: 93 cm

Waist before: 67 cm
Waist eighteenth week: 80 cm

Hips before: 92 cm
Hips eighteenth week: 93 cm

Butt before: 95 cm
Butt eighteenth week: 99 cm

Bump before: 77 cm
Bump eighteenth week: 92 cm

Feb 25, 2013 - Feelings    No Comments

Seventeen Weeks Pregnant

Seventeen Weeks Pregnant

I like my bump at seventeen weeks, it’s still comfy to sleep with. It’s hard to sleep on my left side because I keep waking up on my back, the pillow I’m using to keep me on my side is easily moved, so I don’t know what to do anymore. I tried different parts of the bed, three pillows, but I still wake sometimes on my back. I’m waiting for the summer when I can use my quilt for a support system on my back. I don’t want to sleep alone on a couch.

I finally have some food cravings, but my aversion to meat is making me nauseated sometimes. I can’t stand the smell of smoked meat and even the sight of chunks of meat on a plate. I watched Man vs. Food last night and I half salivated and half I had to focus on something else. So last night I ended up craving for pizza (I was making a plan to go made some myself), hot dogs with coleslaw, onions, ketch-up and mayonnaise (and I actually had some sausages in the fridge but the fact is I was more craving for the coleslaw, which I didn’t have), and hamburgers (I had nothing in the house to make some and still the sauce and garnish, and not the meat, were more appealing for me), but the fact that I was so tired it made me crave more for my bed and pillows than for food.

I’m beginning to think my baby is a vegetarian chef. Why a chef? From the beginning of my pregnancy I craved baking and coking, but not necessary eating the results. I make my own bread for the last month or so, and I’m looking to find a way to keep it fresh for more than 3 days, cuz I’m not baking everyday.

I just noticed, with the help of my husband actually, that I have stretch marks on my behind and when I measured it I saw that I was waaay over I thought I was. Till now I measured my hips, which are not the biggest part of my butt, but when I measured the biggest part I had a big surprise. I say I started with 95 cm, at most, and I now have 98 cm. I know is not much, but keeping track of my hips and seeing they didn’t change at all, made me pretty happy about myself and I was thinking the 2 kg I gained are all for my baby, but it seems I put something aside as well.

I’m loving the moments when my baby is moving. I feel something clear more and more for the last couple of days. It still resembles gas, but I can tell the differences now. I can feel them more at night when I lay in the bad with my hand over my belly, and my husband can feel some but not all, just like 2 out of 5, but it makes me fill up with magical happiness. And even if some could say it’s not baby it’s gas, that is some magical gas, why would I decide it’s not the baby so that I would not feel THIS happy? I love you Babygas!!!

Other symptoms: Back pain, but not that much anymore, inflamed gums, which I’m going to the dentist for, congested nose, the saline spray doesn’t help as much as I would want, headache, fatigue, gas machine and the need to urinate more intense.

New measurements:
Weight before: 59.3 kg
Weight seventeenth week: 61,1 kg

Bust measurements before: 87 cm
Bust seventeenth week: 93 cm

Waist before: 67 cm
Waist seventeenth week: 79 cm

Hips before: 92 cm
Hips seventeenth week: 92 cm

Butt before: 95 cm
Butt seventeenth week: 98 cm

Bump before: 77 cm (I don’t know for sure)
Bump seventeenth week: 90 cm

Feb 19, 2013 - Health, Tips    2 Comments

Finding Out Gender

Finding out Gender

Monday I had my 16 week ultrasound. I had it in my town because it was just a check-up to see everything is ok. And it was, regular heart beats, surviving skills ready, putting finger in mouth after first trying in his/hers eye, swallowing amniotic fluid. Me and my husband were so thrilled seeing our baby moving and showing his/hers entire body.

At the end we examined for a while the private parts and apparently he’s a boy. I think we will be more sure after 20 weeks, but my husband was all happy about it, but he was also a little sad because he got used to the idea that a baby girl would be so cute. So now he thinks we should try to have a girl too, even if before he said he doesn’t want more than one baby cuz he would want to offer as much as he can to one, so that he would have plenty. Now he has second thoughts, he says is a big chance we will try again in a couple of years if we have the means necessary to raise two kids.

So I’m thrilled my baby is healthy and big. I don’t believe he’s a boy, yet. I’m waiting for the more advanced ultrasound. He is growing fast, big for 16 weeks, but he doesn’t stay still for a moment and he’s so cute. He has 5 fingers at each hand, and we also saw a cute butt and his perfectly shaped spine.

I’m beginning to gain some weight, like a couple of hundreds grams per day. I hope is not too much. I still can’t eat meat, but I like eating something sweet from time to time, sometimes the sweet thing can be an apple, but chocolate is good too. So according to some sayings that if you crave sweet things is a girl, and sour/salty is a boy, I also crave cheese, so I can’t say if it is true or not.

Some other myths about gender are:
– If you pour salt in a pregnant lady’s head, without her knowing, and she scratches her nose, the baby is a boy, if she takes her hand to her mouth it’s a girl.

– If you are pregnant and dream rats, you’ll have a boy, if you dream flowers, it’s a girl.

– If you have the pregnancy glow, you’ll have a girl, if you don’t have anything special, it’s a boy.

– If you put your wedding ring on a thread above your belly and the ring moves back and forward, it’s a girl, if it moves in a circle, it’s a boy.

– If the baby’s heart rate is under 150 it’s a boy, if it’s above, it’s a girl.

Is fun to play with this myths, but I don’t know about you, but I like knowing for sure. We’ll go in march for fetal morphology and we will found out so much more about our baby.

Feb 18, 2013 - Feelings    No Comments

Sixteen Weeks Pregnant

Sixteen Weeks Pregnant

We announced our big news on Valentine’s Day with this photo of my belly and my husbands belly. It was a busy day, with lots of people congratulating us and it was a good start for such a beautiful day. Till launch time came and my mother in law started a fight again. This time I told her that if she keeps on stressing me like this I will lose the baby.

She was completely insane and acting like no mother should act with her son and pregnant daughter in law, and I got very stressed because my husband didn’t want to ignore her behavior and still tried to explain why she was acting crazy again. But when he saw me crying and pulling his sleeve to go upstairs, he let go and came with me.

We needed a few minutes to calm down, think about the baby, but it was hard to stop crying. In the end I needed to start some cookies plans I had for Valentines, to make something sweet for my husband, and I avoided doing it in the kitchen, where she was, I put everything I needed in a room, that was a bit cold, but with my husband’s company I had everything I could want, right next to me.

Announcement

After the announcement, we posted the photo above, some friends wanted to see my belly and came over. They are much younger than me and they are pretty excited about my baby too, probably because it’s their first pregnant friend they have. They were very funny, kept answering their phones with “I’m at Alina’s and she is pregnant”, and the person on the other line didn’t know me for sure but they congratulated me still.

My other friend told his parents and they were concerned about my age thinking I was in high school like their son. My friends asked a lot of questions about my belly, the baby, and they were super excited when they saw the ultrasound.

One of my husbands best friends asked him, when he saw the announcement: “Did YOU wished for this to happen?” and only after he replied he congratulated him. It was so funny, I expected something like this from him so it wasn’t a surprise, but still funny. Like I forced my husband into having unprotected intercourse, or I manipulated him into having a baby. SO funny!

After that we got dressed to go out for diner to celebrate my no-more-a-secret pregnancy and Valentine’s Day. I had no reason to hide my belly from now on and I felt relaxed. The pizza we ordered wasn’t that good but the company was, so the night ended well.

No other symptoms to my pregnancy other than back pain, fatigue and frequent walks to the bathroom. Some arrhythmia from time to time, but according to the cardiologist is very common in pregnancy, of course she didn’t explain why I had it before getting pregnant too, and if they are not showing on the 10 seconds EKG we should not be worried.

I’m staying positive no matter what so that I would not worry and it will not cause more stress.

Today I have a check-up and an ultrasound, and my husband is coming to see the bump for the first time.

New measurements:
Weight before: 59.3 kg
Weight sixteenth week: 60,4 kg

Bust measurements before: 87 cm
Bust sixteenth week: 93 cm

Waist before: 67 cm
Waist sixteenth week: 80 cm

Hips before: 92 cm
Hips sixteenth week: 92 cm

Feb 14, 2013 - Feelings, Problems    No Comments

Stressful Environment in Pregnancy

Stress at the pregnant woman

As you know, my husband and I are living with my MIL and his grandma because grandma had suffered a stroke 3 years ago and they needed help and moral support. My MIL stays at home, she takes care of her mother, but before that she worked st the coffee shop they now left to me cuz she is busy with grandma.

Grandma is 84 years old, the stroke left some brain damage, and is hard for her to say words, even if she knows what she wants to say. She can go by herself at the bathroom, but difficult because she has some legs problems, and she can eat all by herself.

But this is not the stress part. My MIL has thyroid problems, she can’t put one and one together, she is illogical, gets paranoid and she gets mad and starts yelling for no reason which doesn’t help her blood pressure problems, and every time she has a fit, she yells that he should know she is sick and gets angry because of her thyroid and he shouldn’t get her more angry, so she knows she’s not being angry for a good reason, but she continues anyway. But my husband tries every time to reason with her, explain that we can’t stay quiet when she blames us for every single thing that goes wrong in this house, but she has also problems with listening, with waiting her turn to talk, so is chaos.

My husband had some blood pressure problems too and so when hell starts I try to keep him calm so that his blood pressure doesn’t get high. Yesterday, MIL and my husband had an argument, which ended when we left to our room (is a big house, we have our own floor, bathroom, but not a kitchen). The argument started again when we came down to eat dinner (we do this for his grandmas sake, she gets very sad if she doesn’t see her grandson and we can’t risk another stroke from her). The argument ended again when we left for our room again.

She then calls him to get down with the blood pressure device because they didn’t felt well. Again some argument started, and my husband told her something he bottled for some time. He told her she had been a good mother, but since she got sick he doesn’t recognize her anymore, and she should go to a doctor and get fixed (which we tried for the last 2 years to make her go and get treatment, and refuses) cuz she is making him crazy. And he only stays here because he is feeling pity for her and for grandma. She than started to do something with her chin, a weird motion like she was chewing something and he panicked and his blood pressure went up, and he felt his skull at the back of the head burning, he thought she was having a seizure or something.

He came and get me (I was on the toilet), I stayed just a few seconds with him and he told me to not panic (but I can stay very calm in stressful situations and think clear even if my heart beats 10 times as fast) he didn’t want to stress me or the baby, and he sent me to see if everything is ok down with the girls, he couldn’t go cuz he thought he couldn’t handle seeing something bad. I tried to calm the grandma cuz she wanted to get up and go to her daughter to see if she was ok. I quickly calmed the situation, made a joke to make grandma smile and see everything is ok. The daughter (my MIL) is sleeping with her so they are both in the same room.

My MIL didn’t want any pill to calm her down, but she sounded not that bad anymore, at least she was answering my questions. Before I came she didn’t speak, at all. I stayed a little longer (a minute or two) and hoped my husband was better upstairs too.

He then came to get me cuz he still had high blood pressure, 16 with something, and some chest pressure (I told him it can be from anxiety, breathing hard and fast can cause lungs getting tired, I tried to relax him). He still felt his skull burning and I stayed with him, massaging his chest and comforting him, putting his hand on my belly and told him to think of the baby that will be so bless to have him as a father, and it worked, he started smiling, caressing my belly, closing his eyes and thinking of our baby (it always helps me).

He was very stressed that he put me in a stressful situation, concerned about the baby, but he didn’t know what else to do. He started saying we should move out, that it doesn’t help the baby, and I said we should speak of this the next day so that now we can focus on relaxing.

Moving will mean, not owning our own house, paying rent and utilities at the same time with paying them at the current home, so that when we come back we don’t have to make other contracts, and it will be stressful, we will have money problems, and we expect a baby and we need to put money aside for the baby.

And I’m not saying that my MIL should help us more, or put some money aside, for her grandson/daughter, as my mother does, but at least she should make sure she has something nice to offer her grandson/daughter and don’t start fights without a reason (even if she had a reason she shouldn’t start a fight). My mother in law is a big spender and is always complaining about lack of money, although she should have plenty, she can’t put any aside, because she buys so much crap.

Another thing she does. If we see there are no eggs in the fridge we buy some, the next day she but HER own eggs. We don’t eat that many eggs but she does. If she has no eggs left she BORROWS an egg from us and she promises she will give it back. But if we previously TOOK (not borrowed) an egg from her she says she doesn’t have to give our egg back because now we are even.

And after all that, grandma said to him last night, with tearful eyes, with her own words, that she can’t live without him, and she need him here.

So, stressful environment or not, I’m going to protect myself, my bump and my husband and we will exit every fight she starts without saying anything. I think IGNORE button is the key.

P.s.: Today is the day we announce everyone else about my pretty baby. But about that, another time, so that it can be a happier note.