I started working with my husband for a couple of weeks and its more time consuming than what I did before. But I manage to do all that is needed to be done, like making lunch for both, washing and cleaning, but I’m starting to worry about how I will not have time to do any of this after baby is born, for the first few months at least, because I will be tired and cranky most likely.
I’m worried about what I will eat, and who will cook and clean, or at least do the laundry, because I don’t see my mother in low helping with anything. A few days back she washed a t-shirt my husband wore to paint the room we recently made and he tried wearing the same t-shirt also when he did the baby’s room, and when he wanted to wipe his sweat with the sleeve his face was full of cat hair. Which I don’t want on my baby’s clothes or mine, or my husbands, so she can’t help there.
I thought about buying another washing machine, just a little one, for the baby, but we don’t have room and is too expensive. So I guess I will wash them by hand, as the washing machine is still downstairs, in their bathroom and cats are eating food directly on the washing machine. I once saw fish skin, oily and smelly on the washing machine and the cats didn’t even eat it. It disappeared, eaten or taken, a few hours later, but the smell and the oils where still there, next to an open cat food can and more cat food in trays.
Then is the food issue. I will need to be eating proper meals as I want to breastfeed and it will be hard to eat what she is making because I never did like her cooking, she puts too many spices and too little salt. And I could not ask her to make something for us, because she already has to cook special diet for her, another no salt no fat meals for grandma, and it will be cruel to ask her to cook normal, salty and after my recipe meals for me and my husband.
And about cleaning, is hard enough for her to clean her room because of her eyes problem, I HOPE, because she says something is clean when it’s not, and to ask her to do our cleaning it will be useless AND stressful, because even if she will not be doing a good job she will still complain that she did so much and she will be tired to do stuff that WE will probably end up doing instead of her.
On another subject, we managed to paint the baby’s room. We just redid the white with antibacterial paint and we will be cleaning the room today. We called a girl to do the hard job like rubbing and polishing all the paint drops and dust we made. And after she is done we will probably do it again more thorough, because is the baby’s room and we need to be sure everything is good.
And it will be perfect if not for my mother in law old furniture set, which is heavy, and old, and broken, and the wood is chipped in some places, and not all the doors stay perfectly closed, and she has her (dusty) crystal glasses set in the glass cabinet, and plates set for special occasions which we don’t use, and lots of clothes, but the clothes don’t bother me as much as the old and full of dust and bacterial furniture which she constantly reminds us that she bought with her first salary 25 and more years ago.
I just have to wait for my son to grow and smash by accident some things that are not to valuable, to show her she has to put them in a safe place. Because that is what you do with things that you don’t use but are fond off, you put them in safe cases that can hold them safe and dust free.
Then I will probably spill everything I can on the furniture so that I can tell her I’m sorry and I will have to buy her another set. Because that is what we really want, spend our money, not hers, on something new and baby friendly, but she refuses because is HER first furniture she ever bought.
I will probably not be doing all the mean things I said, but it’s more relaxing to say I will and to think them than to think I am doomed.
Symptoms: Baby is putting pressure on my belly sometimes but is manageable, no more cravings, but I still will never refuse a pizza, a few back aches, but less than the weeks before, acid reflux and the bathroom trips.
I still feel ok even if I am in the third trimester. Hopefully I will still feel like this later on.
Baby weight: 1005 grams (ours measured 950 grams at 25 weeks)
Baby head to toe: 37.6 cm
Weight before: 59.3 kg
Weight nineteenth week: 69,1 kg
Bust measurements before: 87 cm
Bust nineteenth week: 98 cm
Waist before: 67 cm
Waist nineteenth week: 91 cm
Hips before: 92 cm
Hips nineteenth week: 97 cm
Butt before: 95 cm
Butt nineteenth week: 103 cm
Bump before: 77 cm
Bump nineteenth week: 100 cm